How To Elope
So you’re thinking about planning an elopement, but you’re not sure how to elope. Let’s face it, traditional weddings aren’t for everyone, and more couples are wanting an intimate and adventurous way to celebrate their wedding day. Some people think eloping means when two people run off to the courthouse or Las Vegas without telling anyone to say their “I do’s”. While you can still elope in Vegas, the definition of eloping has drastically changed.
An elopement is an intimate wedding experience, intentionally small, and a unique experience to reflect who you are as a couple without trying to meet the social constraints of the “traditional wedding” standard.
Wanting to plan an authentic wedding day experience is one of the many reasons why couples decide to elope. But how do you elope? Luckily for you, we came up with a step-by-step guide to help you with your planning process, along with some common questions couples like you always ask us!
How to Elope: Step by Step Guide
- Create an Inspiration Board
- Determine a Budget
- Decide WHERE to elope
- Pick Vendors to Help Make Your Day go Smoothly
- Think About Attire and Details
- Do all the Paper Work
- Create a Cash Gift Wedding Registry
- Make Your Elopement Announcement
While elopement planning can be easier than a traditional wedding, there is still a fair share of aspects you should consider when planning an elopement. Luckily for you, our team knows how overwhelming wedding planning can be, so we compiled some awesome tips and tricks for couples who aspire to elope or have a small wedding.
Many couples tying the knot, tend to shy away from the idea of an elopement because they either don’t understand what it is, or they don’t want to leave anyone out. We are here to tell you that many of our Wandering Weddings members and our team have felt the same way, and we have made it our goal to provide others with the best information, year-round.
Here at Wandering Weddings, our members are the ideal vendors to help you with your planning journey. Depending on your needs, we are here to help. If you have a specific question, request, or interest, please reach out to our team or leave us a comment.
Step 1: Create an Inspiration Board
The first step in planning an elopement is deciding what type of style you like. Elopements are perfect for adventurous couples because there are virtually no limitations on the type of wedding day you can plan. Aspects to think about for your inspiration board include locations, colors, flowers, decorations.
Have fun with this planning process because it’s the perfect time to think about what you both really love. Where do you plan on having your ceremony? Would you like to hike to your elopement ceremony location? Do you both prefer the mountains or the beach? What type of season do you both enjoy the most? What time of day do you want to get married? Are you planning on including a small group of family members, or will it be just you two during the ceremony?
When creating your inspiration board for your elopement, consider getting some inspiration from our real elopement stories. Each of our features on Wandering Weddings is perfect to save to your elopement inspiration board.
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Step 2: Determine a Budget
If you choose to elope, then you need to determine your budget. Even though you have more flexibility in planning an elopement versus a traditional wedding, you still need to consider logistics. You can also plan a very lavish elopement with tons of decorations, or you can plan for a more minimalist elopement style.
This is the least exciting part of wedding planning, but it’s the most important part. We suggest starting with a base total of how much you both feel comfortable spending. Setting a budget helps you prepare and prioritize things on your wedding list. Once you set your budget, we then suggest making a list of things you will need to account for.
Here are some details that can make up your elopement budget:
- Elopement Venue Permits/Fees
- Ceremony Attire
- Hair and Makeup
- Marriage License
- Wedding Planner
- Travel and Accommodations
Check out how much does it cost to elope guide.
After you have made your list, then it’s time to do your research and order your list in priority. Are there some things you can cut back on? How much is it to plan an elopement? Depending on what you’re looking for, elopements can typically average from $2,000 to $5,000. This is just an estimate, but it is definitely cheaper to elope than to have a traditional wedding.
It is important to remember that you can go as simple or extravagant with your elopement planning. It is perfectly fine to DIY a lot of things including your florals and your makeup.
Sticking to your budget will help you determine the final cost of your elopement.
Step 3: Decide Where To Elope
Now that you are inspired and have a budget in mind, you have to decide where you are going to elope. We crafted together the best places to elope, so you can match your inspiration with one of our top locations.
Do you want to elope somewhere meaningful to both of you, or do you want to travel and explore somewhere new you both want to scratch off of your bucket list? Once you have decided what elopement location you’re loving, you should then see if it matches your original vision on your inspiration board. Pro tip: it’s completely OK to change your elopement vision as you go through the elopement planning process.
We personally love elopements because we have found that couples not only spend significantly less, but we also know couples who plan their elopement at their honeymoon destination.
Step 4: Pick Vendors to Help Make Your Day go Smoothly
The next step in how to elope is figuring out what parts of your elopement you need to outsource help from vendors. Even if you’re planning a simple elopement, you still need someone to travel along with you and document your wedding day. You’ll also need someone to officially marry you.
Our elopement packages are created with our couples in mind to be go-to resources. These packages are a great step-by-step guide to planning your small wedding at a specific location you’re interested in. Our elopement packages also contain reliable vendors who are experienced in planning and documenting elopements in that area.
After you’ve picked your vendors, connect with them, and tell them your elopement vision. A pro tip here is to have your inspiration board handy to bounce ideas back and forward with visuals and specific details. Remember, don’t freak out if you can’t meet your vendor face-to-face because you’re planning a destination wedding.
If you’re working with a vendor from an elopement package, as Wandering Weddings does, then these are professionals who aspire to bring your vision to reality. Plus, most of them would love to facetime with you! If you’re planning on having minimal vendors, then remember to outline an elopement timeline to keep everyone mindful of the time they have during your elopement day.
With that said, remember your elopement day is what you both want it to be!
Step 5: Think About Wedding Attire and Details
For this step, consider how your wedding outfit will fit with the location you both decided on. You should also consider what you’ll be doing in your attire before and after your elopement ceremony. Our wedding dress guide breaks down some awesome options for brides who are planning an adventurous elopement. We like to think this step is the best out of all the steps to elope because you get to go shopping!
You’ll also realize you shouldn’t limit yourself to wedding attire based on traditional wedding views. In fact, we encourage our couples to think outside of the box and wear something they feel comfortable in and love!
Consider if your ceremony location requires hiking, or if you have to pack your wedding dress and change into it after your hike up to your location. Another great element to consider is the weather where you’re getting married. Will you need to bring an umbrella, towels, or a jacket to shield you from the cold? Are you ok with trashing your wedding dress, or do you want to slip it on right before saying “I do”?
Our team loves wedding accessories, so definitely consider what details you want to compliment your wedding attire with.
Step 6: Do all the Paperwork
It actually does not take very long to plan an elopement. Planning your elopement can take at least 3 months to organize your inspiration, budget, and vendors. We advise doing all of your paperwork 2 months away from your elopement day.
Make sure to obtain your marriage license, book all accommodation and travel arrangements, and discuss fees and permits regarding your elopement venue.
For this elopement step, it’s important to know that every state has a different law about marriage licenses. In some states, like California and Colorado, for example, you can self-solemnize your marriage.
If you’re planning on getting married in a different state or country than where you live, then make sure to do your research. Our Wandering Weddings members are experts in these requirements, so we highly recommend teaming up with one of them.
Some couples become worried about how to elope in a different state, so we are here to say that it can be easier to officially get married and obtain your license at a city hall in your own city. After you obtain your marriage license, you can hold a symbolic ceremony at your wedding destination without stressing about the logistics of it all.
Step 7: Create a Cash Gift Wedding Registry
If you’re thinking about what type of wedding registry to create to share with your family and friends, then consider a cash gift wedding registry! A cash registry is a great option for couples who don’t really want a ton of stuff. This is also great to get some extra help to save for a house together, your honeymoon, or even towards future family investments.
Step 8: Make Your Elopement Announcement
Announcing your elopement can be fun and exciting. Now you probably realize couples elope for various reasons. When it’s time to share your intention of getting married or celebrating your union with others, think about creating fun signs and incorporating your favorite drink or furry pal. You can get as creative with this step as you both want!
Some couples, however, worry about this step the most. Remember to talk about this with your honey and see what you both feel comfortable with. As difficult as this step can be, remember to honor what you both find important.
When announcing your elopement, it’s important to think about how you’re going to tell everyone. You can keep it a secret from everyone until you’re actually married, or you can announce you’re eloping, and then immediately leave for your adventure wedding.
Another suggestion is to only invite and tell your immediate family members or those closest to you. You can still have an adventure elopement and include your family. This way, your loved ones can still be present or participate on your wedding day without feeling left out.
You can also decide to announce your elopement at a family BBQ or get-together! The options are endless, but we do want to remind couples they shouldn’t feel guilty for eloping. A great way to ease your mind is by offering an explanation for why you both decided to elope over having a traditional wedding.
Are you ready for the next step? Connect with our awesome photographers to start building your ideal elopement team.