Wondering how to announce your elopement? Losing sleep over what the response might be?
We are all for keeping your nuptials an intimate experience, especially when saying “I do” involves a little adventure, but we also understand that the news is not always well-received. To ease your fears and help prepare you for the big announcement, we asked real couples to share their thoughts and personal stories. Now we’re passing their advice on to you!
1. WAIT UNTIL YOU’RE READY
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Keara from Hilo, Hawaii shares…
“I felt as though I wanted to talk to my parents about it before we officially decided, so that conversation went great! My mom was pretty relieved, to be honest, to not be helping in planning a big traditional wedding, and I’m sure my Dad was relieved he wouldn’t be needing to figure out how to pay for it. We told Aaron’s parents after we eloped, that was per his request. That conversation went great as well, and they were very excited for us too! Best advice for telling family and friends? Tell them when YOU are ready to! Eloping is meant to be more of an intimate way to say your vows to each other and that day is about what you and your significant other want, not what everyone else thinks it should be. We ended up still wanting to have a backyard BBQ/potluck, so when we started telling everyone else, it came along with an invitation to the party.”
You can see more of Keara’s elopement HERE
2. SEND INVITATIONS FOR A RECEPTION
Brooke Shannon Photography
Kaylie from Southern California shares…
“We wanted family and friends to still feel like they were part of our special day, even though they couldn’t be at the actual ceremony… Before our elopement, we sent out invitations that were worded, ‘Join us for the celebration of our marriage.’ All of our guests knew that we would be getting married ahead of time in Yosemite. The party took place two weeks after we got married at my parent’s house and included most of what you would have at a wedding reception. We had an entrance, first dance, DJ, food, and drinks. We had a recording of our vows that we played right before our grand entrance as a way to include everyone in part of the ceremony. We also had pictures from the wedding day at the party, which was really fun for our guests to see. Fortunately, we did not have a lot of push back, and I think people really admired the fact that we knew what we wanted and we were willing to go the distance to make it happen.”
You can see more of Kaylie’s elopement HERE
3. UTILIZE SOCIAL MEDIA
Cedar & Pines
Mandy from Colorado shares…
“We told our immediate families before we went, so they knew the plan. Corey and I are both so close to our families so we couldn’t keep it from them! We did keep it a secret from everyone else, and I actually posted an announcement on Instagram and Facebook. We have so many friends and family that we wanted to tell ASAP, that seemed like the best way to get our exciting news out!”
You can see more of Mandy’s elopement HERE
4. THROW A BACKYARD BBQ
Bekah Kay Creative
Meghan from Baltimore, Maryland shares…
“We decided to elope with our parents and siblings present. We both have large immediate families who are so important to us so we threw a BBQ at our house a few weeks after our wedding for 50 of our nearest and dearest, the same 50 who would have been present had we chosen to go the traditional wedding route. We sent invitations announcing the date of our elopement and that we would be having a party to celebrate. It was so fun, laid back, and exactly what we wanted. We also sent out announcements to the rest of our extended family and our friends with pictures from our elopement and a short explanation of our day. My advice is to not worry. Your family loves you and you are going to worry way more than they will!”
You can see more of Meghan’s elopement HERE
5. KEEP IT CASUAL
Angela Hays Photography
Taylor from SLC, Utah shares…
“We kept all of that really casual. We didn’t even post about our engagement on social media until quite a bit later. A lot was done by word of mouth, and when people asked, we would preface by saying that the ceremony would just be family.”
You can see more of Taylor’s intimate wedding HERE
Thank you to Keara, Kaylie, Mandy, Meghan, and Taylor for your insight!
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- 0.1 1. WAIT UNTIL YOU’RE READY
- 0.2 2. SEND INVITATIONS FOR A RECEPTION
- 0.3 3. UTILIZE SOCIAL MEDIA
- 0.4 4. THROW A BACKYARD BBQ
- 0.5 5. KEEP IT CASUAL
- 1 Ready to start planning your elopement or intimate wedding?
- 2 The first step is finding the perfect vendors to help you create the perfect day. Search our Wandering Weddings members HERE!